Barbie's Story
Barbie's Story
My rape happenned in Annapolis,Maryland. I was with friends so i thought i was safe. I was also intoxicated. The rapist was sober.He was suppossedly a military officer.
Without giving any recognition to the sociopath or psychopath....i would like to focus on my healing process..
Medical care, physicians, testing for hiv, and stds is a must...Pychiatric care is also important, counseling... Support system....literature....Police communication, reporting the crime, investigating the crime.
I immediately told my friends and family what happenned. I communicated my feelings openly....and i think that is why i can heal....Forgiveness...because the criminal is obviously mentally ill...
Prevention of this reoccurring...staying sober...dont think your friends can protect you when they are partying...Awareness of your location, and never, never let yourself be taken to a second location.
Body language and eye contact with someone you are conversing with...
never go out alone, or to the restroom alone...watch your drink...hold it, take it to the restroom...never let a man purchase a drink (date rape drugs)...
This crime has opened my eyes up to the evil in man....and how rape is so easily dismissed and hard to prosecute...and how it is a mans world...
I have strong faith in God and friends and lovers...I told my ex- boyfriend what happened..I communicated to my lover what happenned...It is a part of me and how i react and feel....and i thank God everyone has hugged me and loved me and supported me....Even if my own sister did not...Not everyone believes these cases can be easily prosecuted...Sometimes family and friends turn on you/...But i thank my huge support system...and my best friends....especially Donna and Kim who listened and believed me....even through the questioning of the police when the victim becomes a victim once again...But God does not sleep and i believe rapists will slip up and get caught...the bad guys always do...and they will have their day in court....Sincerely, A Brave Survivor Who is Speaking Out....Barbie
Aisling's Story
Hi, I've never tried to write my story on a website before but here goes.
My first memories date back to when I was about five, they consist of being held down on a bed while my father's best friend rubbed his penis against my private parts. I remember his beard and his hands gripping my arms. I also remember on other occasions him hitting me but never hard enough to leave bruises. I was also abused by a baby sitter. The abuse went on until I was about eleven when I told my parents.
Recently I've started to have flash backs to being forced to perform oral sex on this man. I don't know if its real or not. My mom says she remembers that when he used to babysit me as a baby she would come back to see he had taken off my nappy.
I know the abuse happened but I don't know what is real or not. It seems so simple to see it in black and white, no big deal, but this has haunted me all my life. This man abused me for at least five years on a regular basis if not more.
There was no evidence of the abuse when I was examined by a doctor, the man had not penetrated me. In some ways I think it might have been easier if he had, made it more concrete somehow. Sometimes I still feel his hands on my body but I don't know what really happened. I use the word rape to explain what happened because I feel that I was raped and abused and penetration or not does not make any difference.
Thank you for reading this and hope it doesn't upset you. If anyone would like to e-mail me I would love to hear from you.
This was a terrible experience, I was 15 and had gone out with my twin sister and her boyfriend and they had kind of pawned me off on his cousin. He was 21 and "experienced" while I was naive. During the course of the evening he and I were left alone and he attempted to "make love" to me (if that's what you want to call it)...Later that evening when I told my other sister what had happened, she told me to talk to him and straighten things out and that it must have been a misunderstanding and surely he didnt mean any harm by it............
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